You should not know the three taboos of speaking.

as the old saying goes, "good fortune has few words, but there are many irritable words." People who are kind and blessed do not talk much, while those who are impetuous are mostly talkative. In this life, it takes only three years to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn to shut up. It is easy to speak, but it is not easy to think twice and think of others before you speak. In fact, do not talk about people wrong, do not expose people's shortcomings, do not talk about people's faults, is a kind of kindness. It is wisdom to disregard others from wrong. In life, there are always some people who like to talk about right and wrong and their length. Husband and wife show love, he said that there is no good man who does not cheat. When other children were admitted to key high schools, he said it was all made up of money. People love to dress up, he said that dressing up every day must not be a good girl. There is a saying in Zengguang Xian Wen: "those who often talk about right and wrong must be non-human." He who can't control his mouth, who likes to talk about right and wrong, is bound to cause trouble for himself. On the other hand, a wise person will never say what is right or wrong and will not judge people or things that he does not know at will. There was a great controversy about the result of the selection of Lu Xun Literature Award. A reporter specially called Jiang Fangzhou, hoping that as deputy editor of the magazine, she could express her views on the works of one of the winners. Jiang Fangzhou refused, saying that she had not read each other's works and could not make any comments. Unexpectedly, the reporter did not stop until he reached his goal and immediately read her the award-winning poem and asked Jiang Fangzhou to give his opinion. Jiang Fangzhou had to say, "with only one poem, I really don't know what to think." There is a saying that "the depth of water does not speak, people do not speak." Interact with people, know how to speak appropriately and do things with a yardstick. It is wise to be able to keep your mouth shut, keep your heart and not talk nonsense. Because talking about the rights and wrongs of others and maliciously speculating on other people's thoughts is not only harmful to others but also not to their own interests. Sometimes eloquence is no more appropriate than silence. It is better to be silent than to gossip. Not to judge others lightly, not to say right and wrong at will, is not only a self-cultivation, but also a kind of wisdom of life. If you don't expose other people's faults, it's respect. There is a saying in Di Zi Gui: "if a person is short, do not reveal it; if a person is selfish, do not say it." Know other people's shortcomings, embarrassed, never say it. Because the world has shortcomings, no one likes their own shortcomings, being exposed face to face, and even more afraid of privacy being publicized everywhere. A cultured person knows not to expose other people's shortcomings, respect others, and save face everywhere. The writer Liu Yong told a story about Huang Junbi, a master of traditional Chinese painting. One day, a woman brought four ancient paintings with joy and asked Huang Junbi to identify the true and false. The woman also said proudly that she had spent a lot of money to get back these treasures from abroad. After looking at the first two paintings, Huang Junbi told the woman that they were all fake. when it came to the latter two paintings, Huang Junbi said, "it looks good. The painter's strokes are very sophisticated. I'm not sure, but they must be worth appreciating." After hearing this, the woman was a little disappointed, but she was delighted at the thought that there were two paintings that might be authentic. After the woman left, Huang Junbi sighed heavily: "wronged ah, spent so much money, four paintings are fake." Liu Yong asked, "since they are all fake paintings, why didn't you say so just now?" Huang Junbi said: She is so confident in her own eyes, she has spent so much money, and in front of so many of her entourage, can I say it's a fake? Remind her later on. Money is a small thing for her, but it hurts her face, but it's a big deal. She has already bought those paintings, whether they are true or not, it is a foregone conclusion, and if she breaks them in person, it will not only embarrass her, but also hurt her feelings. As an old saying goes, "it is easier to see through and not to say." Sometimes, for a person, face is far more important than the truth. All things go too far, speak regardless of the occasion, do not pay attention to the timing, will only put the other party in an embarrassing position. People with high EQ know what to say and what not to say. Will take care of other people's feelings, no matter how familiar the relationship, will not choose to say, when the silence will not say much, will always quietly give people the next step. Can always think of others quietly and take into account the decency of others. Behind all the high EQ is the kindness and respect of people. Do not expose people's shortcomings, is the greatest respect for a person. If you don't talk about human fault, it's self-cultivation. My cousin accidentally saw text messages and photos of her flirting with other women on her husband's cell phone. Under the pressure of her cousin, her husband had to admit that he was having an affair, and the two finally divorced. After the divorce, my cousin kept quiet about the reasons for the divorce. My cousin's husband works in one of my cousin's classmate's company. after learning that they divorced, the classmate specially asked his cousin, "is he sorry to you? if so, I will vent my anger for you and fire him." My cousin smiled and said, "it's not about who's sorry. I just don't agree with him." His business ability is very strong, and he is just the talent your company needs, so you can't fire him lightly. " My cousin also told her family not to mention her ex-husband's fault. Her family did not understand her and said she was stupid: "if you don't tell the truth and be vague, people will think it's your problem." However, my cousin said, "it's all over. You have to forgive others." What's more, I am also responsible for the failure of a slap. " Han Feizi has a saying: "A gentleman does not conceal the beauty of others and does not speak of their evil." A cultured person will not cover up the advantages of others, let alone talk about other people's mistakes. They will not care about the gains and losses of a city and a pool, nor will they put all the blame on others to elevate themselves. They have the mind of accepting all kinds of rivers, leaving room for people to speak and convenient for people to do things. Know people do not judge people, the governor is not open, always keep a few words. In life, people who understand tolerance and don't care about it are not cowardice, but a kind of self-cultivation. People with self-cultivation will not judge others by their own selfishness, but put their minds at ease and take a light view. Not talking nonsense is a kind of high-level kindness. As the old saying goes, "you can spit roses as well as thistles in your mouth." Open mouth, often hurt the people around you. People with high EQ think twice and can look at problems from the point of view of others. Some people say, "the highest EQIt's not slick on all sides, it's not talking, it's kindness for the sake of others. " That's true. Not talking nonsense reflects the goodness of a person's heart. A man with a good mind has temperature in his heart, grace in his chest, and grace in his behavior. Be able to put yourself in other people's shoes, don't talk about right and wrong, don't expose people's shortcomings, don't talk about people's mistakes. Only when you have good thoughts in your heart can you say kind words in your mouth. Not talking nonsense is a kind of high-level kindness. For the rest of my life, may you and I be kind people who don't talk nonsense.

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