When you reach middle age, you have to stop doing 14 things to yourself.

Middle age is a door of life. If you push open this door, you will enter the next stage of life. No one can stop the passage of time, but at least we can choose what kind of attitude to treat life. I like the saying: "what determines life is not what you choose to do, but what you choose not to do." When you reach middle age, you want to live easily and walk freely. Here are 14 things that you should stop doing. 01 What money can solve. Consume less human feelings I have read a sentence: "humanity is not only a sword that opens the way, but also a cocoon that binds itself." The older you get, the more you understand that human debt is always easy to owe and difficult to repay. It ranges from canvassing for children and bargaining for online shopping to borrowing money and asking people to find a job. Continue to consume like this, one day a little carelessness, the relationship will be in jeopardy. Human account is not a bottomless pit, no matter how good the relationship is, it cannot afford to be overdrawn at will. Try not to bother others when money can be taken care of; once you owe it, be sure to return it in time. 02 Stop "eating rotten pears" Someone bought a box of pears. It's too hot. It's a pity that the pears will go bad. So he ate the two worst ones every day and ended up eating a whole box of rotten pears. Many people think that eating rotten pears is stupid, but we often make such mistakes. "wait for beautiful clothes to wear, go to interesting places when you are ready, and always pin your hopes on the future. as the days go by, there is no change in life." The rest of your life is short, so don't always save the best for last. Enjoy the moment, have fun in time, if you have flowers, you must fold them, and don't wait for flowers to break. Every day, beautiful day, live up to this life. 03 Bid farewell to unrealistic fantasies When you are young, you can look up at the starry sky and talk about your ideals. But when you reach a certain age, you must learn to accept reality and keep your feet on the ground. The story of getting rich overnight is destined to stay on the screen. The real life needs to go firmly and endure slowly. When we reach middle age, we eventually have to reconcile with the ordinary, but try to live a non-mediocre appearance. 04 Put away your generosity. Less "meddling" Don't mind your own business, not by watching other people's sufferings, but don't meddle in other people's lives at will. There are as many ways of life as there are people in the world. Days are muddle-headed accounts, and all we can figure out is our own happiness and bitterness. Regardless of other people's business, it is the self-cultivation of time precipitation. To do one's own thing well is the wisdom of a man in middle age. The best state between people is always to make you who you are and others to be others. 05 Don't always live in yesterday. No one's past is perfect, and no life is without regrets. Everything in the past, sad or happy, has become history. Clinging to things that cannot be changed will only add to the trouble. There is a good line in Kung Fu Panda: "people can't live in the past, they have to live in the present." The sun of yesterday can't dry today's clothes. Those who look back frequently will never reach the distance. For the rest of my life, things are too light, the past is not in love, so that the present can not be miscellaneous. 06 Listen to the heart. Stop drifting with the current Time is like a blunt knife, unconsciously slowly smoothing out the once great feelings. Many people in the muddle, early compromise to life, live into a vague face of A, B, C, D. As a result, those who once stood firm began to waver, those who once believed began to doubt, and those who once scoffed began to accept. To muddle along with the tide in this way is in fact the biggest disappointment to life. No matter what age you are, don't forget why you started just because you have gone too far. 07 Stop trying to please anyone. Looking back on the past, we always worry about the passers-by in our lives, but we only owe ourselves. No one can achieve "zero bad rating", always live in the eyes of others, doomed to be tired. Blindly please, not only do not warm the hearts of others, but let their own scars. It is not a skill to please others all one's life, but to please oneself is the king's way. As Chaplin wrote in his 70-year-old speech: "Love yourself is the beginning of lifelong romance." 08 Press the pause button Bid farewell to endless busyness Looking back, we were like clockwork alarm clocks, never idle for a moment. Work, family, life, in the busy against the clock, missed the scenery, but also left the soul. Life is not a result, but a process. At a certain age, life needs to press the "pause button". No matter how busy the day is, you should stop once in a while to feel the beauty of your family and enjoy the joy of life. Only by giving life a space to stretch, can we accumulate strength and go further. 09 Stay away from false friends Time is always the best heart detector. At this age, the friends around you, who is sincere and who is hypocritical, you can tell at a glance. Those who ask for something from you come to the door, those relationships that only play games, those who should be lost, those who should refuse. People live a lifetime, friends are not many, bosom friends are good, love is not long, sincerity is supreme. Instead of cheating on someone who is not worth it, have a drink with an old friend who really knows you. ten Learn to "recognize pussy" Stop squandering your health. When you reach middle age, your body will no longer belong to you alone. It is the support of children, the support of partners, and the sustenance of parents in their old age. For middle-aged people, health is a kind of responsibility, and "recognition" is the best health product. Early to bed and early to rise, moderate exercise; three meals a day, regular and quantitative; less oil, less salt, less tobacco and less alcohol. After all, no matter how much fame and fortune, it is not worth living well. eleven Stop complaining in vain Middle-aged life, wind and rain, no one's life is easy. Dissatisfaction with the status quo is a common fault of you and me, but it is not advisable to complain as a habit. No one is happy to approach people with grievances; blindly complaining will only deepen suffering. When life makes things difficult for you, instead of complaining about others, it is better to save your strength for the better. No matter how bad the current situation is, only upward is the best way to break the situation. twelve Don't compare with others. Live your life. When people are young, they more or less like to keep up with others.Once you can't compete, you will feel unwilling. The more you see, the more you will find that in the cauldron of life, all we see is the lid of other people's pots. Other people's are not necessarily treasures, their own are not worthless. There is no absolutely perfect life in the world, only a contented state of mind. Living your own little life well is the most important thing in life. thirteen Get rid of the "good old man" mentality The mentality of being a good man is the strongest poison in interpersonal relationships. I would rather be wronged than refuse others. Spent precious time and energy, but the result is often, hard but thankless, only a lot of frustration. I like a saying very much: the so-called "good man" is just a trap set by people themselves. When people reach middle age, their inner comfort and the matter at hand are more important than being what others call "good people". fourteen Give up the idea of "relying on others" When young, who does not encounter the slightest dissatisfaction will pour out everywhere, asking for comfort. The more you experience, the more you find that people are not connected and there is no empathy in the world. In the bitter rain of life, you are the only one who can save you from the mud. The so-called maturity is to accept that there is no one to rely on and learn to fight alone. The hurdle of life, to cross their own life, want to achieve their own life. ▽ In "A Life of Adventures", Mao not easily had a saying that won my heart: "Forty is actually the new twenty." From now on, stop those meaningless consumption and overdrafts and travel light. To live forty as the new twenty is the best awe of middle age.

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