A year and a half after Kobe Bryant's death, his wife posted a high-profile kiss photo: sorry, don't wait!
The rest of your life is short. Don't let your regrets last too long.
yich Engzhang365 At 12:30 Beijing time on Aug. 23, Bryant's Weibo account posted a new update. It says: "Today is my birthday, come and bless me." After leaving blessings in the comment area, he was in a trance for a while. It turned out that this was his second birthday after his death. Kobe Bryant's super words have been lively for a long time because of his birthday. The blessing copy forwarded back and forth on the home page, one of the words I see most is "should have". Yes, if it hadn't been for the plane crash two years ago, he would have welcomed his 43rd birthday on this day. I should have attended the Hall of Fame awards ceremony in person to celebrate the honor of my career. I should have watched my new book published, and watched the Lakers win another championship. More importantly, he should have spent time with his beloved wife and daughter to enjoy a comfortable life after retirement. As a celebrity family member who lost her husband and daughter in a plane crash, Vanessa became a victim of constant attention. On Bryant's birthday, his wife Vanessa posted a picture of a kiss with the caption: "Happy birthday, I will always love you, eternal love, 43." For fans and teammates, Kobe Bryant is an immortal legend and an eternal hero on the court. But for his wife Vanessa. Kobe Bryant is the 17-year-old lover who has been in love since the age of 17, the father of his daughter, and the man who supports his family all day. Now Vanessa has started a new life of her own. Send the eldest daughter to college alone Get together and go on vacation with the families of her husband's former teammates A man took his daughters to revisit Disneyland, once the family's favorite. …… Everyone concluded from her bright smile that she had finally come out. No longer dwell on the tragedies of the past, no longer wait for the cure of time, actively and enthusiastically rush to a new life. But maybe only Mrs. WA knows in her heart. There is no time to say goodbye to a loved one, not even a word. The regrets of the rest of my life have been infinitely magnified invisible. And there are many families like this. What kind of experience is the death of a loved one? We see the same key words in the answers of Mao not easy and Jia Ling: regret. 17-year-old Mao is not easy, and 19-year-old Jia Ling lost her mother when she was not famous. "at the moment my mother left, I was an unsuccessful person." Not to mention the blessings that mothers who have worked so hard for themselves for most of their lives have not had time to enjoy. Jia Ling later said that she would rather live an ordinary life now, even if she is a person with no achievements. The better the life, the easier it is to think of the mother who failed to share the happiness, and the less able to be truly happy. As writers and artists, they have the opportunity to write their regrets and heart knots into works and place their thoughts on them. So there is the moving song "one Meat, one vegetarian" and the movie "Hello, Li Huanying". But for most people, the pain of losing a loved one is difficult to resolve and even more difficult to cure. Such a shocking story was broadcast in the Japanese variety show "can I come to your house with you"? At the station in the early hours of the morning, Li Mei, who waited alone, became the protagonist randomly searched for by the program group. To the audience's shock, it is different from Limei's fashionable and exquisite appearance. As soon as I opened the door of Limei's house, it was like walking into a large garbage dump: Cluttered shoes in the hallway Dirty dishes piled up with sinks Moldy expired food in the refrigerator A sewer clogged with hair And underwear mixed with garbage on the floor. …… Everywhere I could see, it was disgusting messiness and sloppiness. No one could understand why she lived like this until Limei's love story slowly unfolded to everyone. It turned out that Li Mei had a loving boyfriend. The two were born on the same day in the same month of the same year, born in the same place, and have the same personality. Nowadays, Limei, which seems to be unable to take care of itself, used to cook for her boyfriend at that time. However, no matter how eternal love is, it is difficult to defeat the impermanence of the world. Once when he came home, his boyfriend discovered the secret of their origins: It turns out that they are brother and sister. When I was a child, I separated because my parents divorced. One lives with his mother and the other is adopted by a new family. The two families are no longer in touch and have lived different lives ever since. Did not expect that after growing up, will be reunited in this way, and even fall in love. Under the painful impact and moral and ethical pressure, the boyfriend chose to commit suicide. Her partner, who had agreed to grow old forever, left her at the age of 31. Li Mei smiled and said to the photography: "time heals everything." But in fact, he has been in a daze for seven years, and there seems to be no sign of coming out. During these seven years, she quit her good job and lived on her savings. The daily activities are eating, sleeping and playing games in bed. Life is a mess. Having long been numb to life, she became vivid only when she mentioned her deceased ex-boyfriend. Carefully take out the clothes of that year from the cupboard. The young girl is generally happy to show the black dress that her boyfriend gave her that year. "this is my baby." For Limei, the memories are heavy, but she is willing to trap herself in the past. "although his business is my pain, it is precisely because of the two years of dating with him that I have become the happiest person in the world." Because really loved, even if the two years of love is very short, it is enough to support the United States through a lifetime of nutrients. What is more sad than the moment of the death of a loved one is to face the traces left by your loved ones alone for the rest of your life. Songs we've heard, gifts we've given, cigarettes we love to smoke. What is death? "everything lasts forever, but the minister is not there." In the face of the departure of loved ones. Some people stay in sorrow and the past for a long time, while others choose to extend the time to say goodbye. On the top of the mountain in Otsuchi, Iwate Prefecture, Japan, there is a special telephone booth, which is called "the phone of the wind". There is no telephone line in this telephone booth, but there is an endless stream of people coming. What they want to make is a phone call to heaven, and what they want to say will be passed on through the wind. Someone calledHis own son, made the most humble request to be a father, and wanted to hear the children shout "Dad" again: "I'd love to hear your voices." Someone called his father and complained about why he left him early, which was very angry. Just as he spoke, his voice had already choked up: "Why am I the only one who can't figure out why I'm the only one who is different from the people around me?" Someone called his wife whose whereabouts is unknown, reported his recent situation and poured out his thoughts at great length: "I built a new house in the old place." "if you find it earlier, everyone is waiting. Go home early when you find it." Does it really exist that you can connect the living and the dead by telephone? It turns out that five years ago, there was a tsunami in Otsuchi. The tsunami was so powerful that the town was reduced to rubble overnight. As a result, 861 people were killed and 421 unaccounted for. The towering waves split the happy and peaceful town in two. Since then, it has been divided into victims and survivors, and countless otherwise complete families have been dispersed. Everyone who lost a loved one in the disaster can only find a little comfort in this old black turntable phone. "they must be able to hear us so that we can live." Talking to deceased relatives, which seemed impossible to onlookers, they spared no effort to do it for five years. It's stupid, isn't it? But they are willing to believe that those missing relatives have not really left, and still exist in a corner of the world. One day their voice will be heard on the other end of the phone at the moment of poking the dial. Never underestimate how much one cares about and misses one's loved ones. No matter how sad they are, they dare not easily forget their families. Because if you forget your loved ones in order not to suffer, then who will remember them? Although it has been exactly five years since the tsunami. But for those who have experienced it, with the death of their loved ones, a lot of beauty has already stopped at that time. Others lamented that five years passed so quickly, but for them, it was "just over five years". There are a lot of worries in this world that you don't know. As Yuan Quan said in the Reader: "every passer-by you meet on the road is someone other people dream of seeing." Love will not fade away The dead live in their hearts We may be no stranger to death, from books, from TV dramas, from other people's stories. But when they need to face the departure of their loved ones, how many people's perception of death instantly returns to zero. We have been resistant to death all our lives, trying our best to digest the departure of our loved ones. But life is impermanent. In one kind of bond or another, we simply can't find a way to compete with it. So mistakenly think that one-size-fits-all is the best way. Either stay in the grief of losing a loved one forever, or choose to forget and seal it completely. But forget to eliminate the cruelty of death, there is a better way. Is to face death and spread it with warm and loving colors. As the one that tells us that "death is not the end, forgetting is". To create a colorful and lively underworld. It turns out that there is a world away, but our relatives are still happy on that end. Like every person in a phone booth looking for redemption. After nagging and chatting, I will say a word to my loved ones as usual: "good-bye." Put down the receiver, get out of the phone booth, and have the strength to face a new life alone. Like the Korean mother who "met" her 7-year-old daughter through VR technology. Feel her voice and appearance again in the virtual park, and "accompany" her to eat, play and celebrate her birthday. Finally ushered in a formal farewell. The tired daughter lying on the bed finally turned into a butterfly and flew away: "Mom, I love you." "good-bye, Mom." A word from a favorite writer to his deceased wife "even if you are no longer with me. I still feel that it is my honor to share the same planet and time with you. " Sometimes the beauty of the past is more than just a reminder to remember to look back. But also to better look forward and give you the courage to start a new life in the future. As long as you live, there is hope. The rest of your life is short. Don't let your regrets last too long. I would like to see this article of you, loved ones, all by your side. 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